Self Esteem: Breaking Unconscious Conditioning Chains From Others

Some of our programming is obvious. It stands up, gets our attention and demands our response. But much of our programming is not nearly so apparent. Most of it has been much more subtle. Every day each of us receives an endless stream of commands, directives, controls, inducements, and expectations from others. All of this invariably affects our levels of confidence and self-esteem to a great degree.

Everything around us nudges, demands, or persuades. Even as adults we are met with a torrent of influences, most of which we are not even aware. We are ships with countless captains, all seeking to direct us on their own courses, for their own purposes, not even knowing they are leading our ships astray. As long as you and I allow others to program us in a way that fits their choosing, we are, without a doubt, out of control.

Why do so many therapists regress their patients to a time in their childhood when the problem was created? Because that is where the beliefs began. That is where the fear, the trauma, or the self-identity first began to take hold. Out of those early years, each of us formed a composite picture of ourselves. It made little difference whether the pictures of ourselves which we created were true or not. Our experiences, our acceptance of what we heard from others and what we told ourselves became the foundation for the mental programming which directs us today.

Of course, not all of our past programming has been the wrong kind. Some of it has been very good. Most of us have experienced the love and caring of others. And most of us have been touched from time to time with visions of positive self-belief. We have had parents who countered their misgivings with encouragement. We have had coaches, teachers, and friends who expected the best. As we grew, all of us, from time to time, have had our successes. But, at our best, we have been living with only a part of our life's programs working for us.

Imagine what you could do if you could override the programs in your sub- conscious mind, those that still work against you, and replace them with a refreshing new program of absolute belief; an almost unconscious, automatic new program that would go to work for you - replacing the barriers with a refreshing new look at the life you have in front of you.